Energetic relationship and family constellations

The same dynamic in your family or relationship

Sometimes you notice that certain tensions or patterns within a relationship, family, or community keep recurring. You may understand rationally what is happening, but the mutual dynamics still do not change on their own.

This can manifest itself in distance, recurring conflicts, arguments within the family, guilt, strong loyalty, difficulty with boundaries, or the feeling that you are always taking on the same role. Parental alienation, grandparent alienation, parental neglect, or grandparent neglect can also be part of a complex family dynamic.

With an energetic relationship or family constellation, I look at what is at play beneath the visible situation. Where appropriate, I also align myself with the various individuals who play a role within the designated situation. This can lead to a better understanding of their mutual dynamics, feelings, needs, and way of reacting.

From that coordination I can also Provide targeted and practical advice on how to best deal with a particular person or situation, Always with respect for all those involved and without condemning anyone.

Recognizing family patterns and relationship patterns

You want to understand why a certain situation or relationship continues to affect you, what patterns repeat themselves, and what your own place is in it. Questions like “Why do I react so negatively to others?” and “Why is the other person reacting this way to me?” They can be very important in this context.

Perhaps you long for more peace of mind, clarity, and understanding of what is appropriate for you, what is appropriate for another, and what arises from the dynamics within your relationship, family, or community.

By making the interrelationships and patterns visible, there can be more understanding for yourself and for the others involved in the situation. You can better recognize where your responsibility lies, what boundaries are important to you, and how you can deal with certain people or situations in a different way.

Individual systemic work

You come alone. You don’t need to bring any family members or other participants along. Through energetic alignment and channeling, I look at the relationships and patterns that are associated with your question.

Afterwards, where appropriate, I also look at the other individuals who play a role within that relationship, family or family dynamics.

This way, it becomes visible how you react to each other, which patterns repeat themselves, and where tension, distance, loyalty, or misunderstandings arise. I look at this not only in terms of what is visible, but also in terms of what is playing out beneath the surface.

You always remain at the center and take full control of what we investigate. I work carefully, respectfully, and without judgment.

How an individual family constellation works

I do an energetic relationship or family constellation individually with you. We start with your question and together we look at which individuals within the situation are important to include.

First, I energetically align myself with you and feel what is happening within your situation. Then I can align myself one by one with the individuals involved, for example your partner, father, mother, children, brother, sister, or other family members. In doing so, I look at the interconnectedness: how do you react to the other person, how does the other person react to you, and what feelings, patterns, or loyalties may be involved in this?

Even a biological parent who is not physically present in your family or life can be included within an alignment. As I experience it in my work, the energetic connection with biological parents can continue to influence feelings, thoughts, behavior, and recurring patterns. Through channeling, I can also align myself with them, allowing for greater insight into what is at play within that connection.

Upward movement through channeling

Sometimes you want to explore the connection with one person alongside a recurring pattern. Then I can combine the arrangement with channeling. I share what I observe during this process and discuss with you what this means for your question. You can read more about this approach here. Conversation with living or deceased people.

Family session in Rotterdam

What is an individual family constellation?

A family constellation helps to make visible what is going on within a family, a relationship or within a person’s own life that is not visible on the surface. Think of recurring patterns, strong loyalties, distance, tensions or reactions that you do not fully understand where they come from.

My way of working differs from a traditional family setup in a group: I work individually with you.

For example, we can look at the relationship between you and your father or mother, between you and your partner or children, but also at siblings, grandparents, or other people who play an important role in your situation. Sometimes it turns out that something you constantly experience has not only to do with today’s situation, but also with a broader family dynamic.

Family therapy in the Rotterdam region

Are you looking for a family portrait in Rotterdam or the surrounding area, If you wish, you can come to me in my quiet practice in Capelle aan den IJssel, right next to Rotterdam. An individual family or relationship session can take place in person and, depending on your request, can also be combined with channeling or other forms of guidance.

When can a relationship assessment be appropriate?

One relationship diagram It can be useful when you notice that within a love relationship, family bond, or other important relationship, you keep coming across the same dynamics.

For example, when you ask yourself:

• Why do I always react so strongly to this person?
• Why is the other person reacting this way to me?
• Why do we keep falling into the same patterns despite good intentions?
• Why do I experience so much distance, tension, or responsibility?
• What is mine and what belongs to the other?
• How else can I deal with this person or situation?

Even in complex family dynamics, including Parent alienation, grandparent alienation, parental neglect or grandparent neglect, Individual systemic work can help gain a better understanding of what is happening. In doing so, I remain cautious: it is not about pointing the finger at anyone, but about looking at the various connections and influences within the situation as clearly as possible.

The goal of a family or relationship constellation for me is not to change someone else. It’s about you understanding better what is happening, why certain patterns recur and what options you have to move forward yourself. This can lead to more peace, understanding, and clarity within a situation that may have been demanding a lot from you for a long time.