More about Leila Amaryllis: a personal in-depth interview

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Who are you when all the job titles just disappear?

First and foremost, I am a human being. I am a very proud mother of two sons, a mother-in-law of two lovely daughters-in-law, and a grandmother of a dear grandson and granddaughter. I am deeply in love with my family and friends. I feel like a very blessed person. I come from a family where independent entrepreneurship is central.

I am someone who lives intensely, has experienced a lot, has seen a lot, and feels deeply connected to what moves people. My life has taught me how layered people can be and how much can be hidden behind a face, reaction, or choice.

That is why the statement “Nothing human is strange to me” fits me so well.

I am never afraid of what someone feels, thinks, has done, experienced, or tells me. I do not believe in putting people into boxes or condemning them. I would rather understand what is really going on.

What is the most important thing to you in human contact?

Respect.

Respect is one of my most important life values.

For me, people don't always have to love each other to treat each other well. Even when love has disappeared or people don't understand each other, respect and honesty can still form a human basis. Respect is for me the foundation of everything that is good.

In addition, for me, honesty, clarity, warmth, equality, and not judging are very important.

Have you always been like this, or did your work teach you this?

Careful listening, remaining calm, and seeing the person behind a question or situation are naturally part of who I am.

My more than 37 years of experience has, of course, added a huge wealth of human stories, situations, and insights to that, but this way of looking at people is not something I had to learn through my profession.

It belongs to me. My mother is the greatest example of all. She played an immensely important role in who I am today and in my way of working. For this, I will remain eternally grateful to her.

What does honesty mean to you?

Honesty is not the same thing for me as being tough.

You can be very clear and at the same time remain gentle and respectful.

For me, honesty means saying what really lives inside you and not making something better or different because the truth might be more difficult.

This is also important in my work. When I don't perceive something clearly, I say so.

I find an honest answer always more respectful than telling someone what they would like to hear.

What do you want someone to feel when they are with you?

“A feeling is a feeling. There doesn’t have to be another judgment attached to it right away.”

I hope especially that someone feels safe and at ease.

That someone can feel:

• Here I can be myself.
• I don't need to make anything more beautiful than it is.
• I don't have to pretend to be stronger than I feel.
• I am not being convicted.
• I am allowed to say what is really happening.
• What I am telling here is treated as confidential.

Sometimes people come up with topics that they can hardly talk about with others. That is why safety and trust are so important to me.

What does your work mean to you personally?

My work is my great passion.

Actually, for me it feels much bigger than just a profession. I genuinely love what I do.

The moment when someone comes to me with sadness, confusion, doubt, or a head full of questions and suddenly more clarity emerges during our time together, gives me immense satisfaction.

When someone then feels:

• Now I understand better what is happening.
• Now I have my sense of order back.
• Now I can move on.

then that exactly touches on why I do this work.

How did you end up working in this field?

My gift doesn't feel like something I ever learned.

I am a born clairvoyant.

Perception, feeling and adjustment are part of me and have always been there.

Throughout my life I have of course gained a tremendous amount of experience and deepened my knowledge in many areas, but the foundation of my paranormal perception did not come from a course or training. It is a natural part of who I am.

How much has your own life shaped you?

A lot.

My life experience is broad, intense, and lived through. I have come to know different aspects of human existence up close.

• Love.
• Sadness.
• Loss.
• Relationships.
• Family.
• Boundaries.
• Responsibility.
• Difficult choices.
• Have to start over again.
• And finding your own way back.

Not everything of that kind needs to be publicly posted on my website.

My past is not a marketing tool for me.

What I do find important is that people should know that my understanding of difficult life situations is not just theoretical.

I am also an expert in the field of C-PTSD. That doesn’t have to be explicitly mentioned everywhere, but it is part of my life experience and my understanding of human survival patterns.

You have also studied psychology and human behavior. How do you see that?

Through years of self-study, I have deeply delved into psychology, human behavior, emotions, beliefs, and patterns.

I am not a formally trained psychologist and I do not want to create the wrong impression about that.

For me, what is more important is that people know that I have been deeply studying the question for a very long time: why do people feel, think and react the way they do?.

My knowledge, my life experience, and my natural talent all come together in my work in a very natural way.

How has your cultural background shaped you?

My background is intercultural.

I am half Egyptian and half Scandinavian and have also lived in Egypt.

Because of that, I know from my own life how much culture can influence family, relationships, expectations, roles, responsibility, and communication.

Two people can genuinely love each other and yet view the same situation from completely different realities.

That also helps me to be open-minded towards people with different cultural backgrounds and to understand them better. Intercultural relations and family dynamics.

What kind of people do you like to work with?

I don’t really have a fixed ‘type of person’.

My clients vary greatly.

• In age.
• Background.
• Culture.
• Appeal.
• Life stage.
• Social position.
• And also in how spiritual or even realistic they themselves are.

For me that is not the most important thing.

Ultimately, we are all human.

How can people contact you?

With very different questions. Some people want to ask something more or say something to a loved one who is no longer there. Then I look through channeling contact with the deceased, Or with someone who is still alive but feels unreachable. Others come with relationship problems, Love grief or a pattern that keeps coming back.

Sometimes I put photo reading and tarot in as a tool, or do we look at it individually family arrangement Depending on what is going on in a family or a family unit. Those who prefer to be active will walk with me through it Schollebos. hiking coaching. And I speak with entrepreneurs as a sparring partner Business questions.

What do you find beautiful about people?

Their resilience.

People can be deeply moved and still find their way again.

It is special when someone finds something of themselves again during a conversation or session.

Not because I was allowed to do that for that person, but because there has been enough clarity to be able to feel it again for myself.

What touches you when you are guiding people?

When someone has made themselves small.

When someone becomes so accustomed to a certain situation that they almost forget that there are other possibilities as well.

Or when someone constantly condemns themselves for what they feel.

A feeling is a feeling.

There doesn't need to be any further judgment made right away.

I want to help people to be able to see themselves and their situation clearly first.

What does equality mean to you?

“I never find the question more important than the person who asks it.”

That I am not above my client.

My observation can provide information that someone does not see themselves at that moment, but that does not mean that I know better how that person should lead their life.

• I can stand next to someone.
• I can mirror.
• I can make things visible.
• I can give advice.

But it remains the other person's life.

The choice remains with the client.

Why do you find self-directed learning so important?

Because I don't want anyone to feel that someone else should be in charge of their life.

I can provide information and watch someone make a choice, but ultimately a choice must also be made from within.

That is why I want someone to always feel like they are in control:

• What does this mean for me?
• What do I want to do with this?
• What suits me?

Why do you want to avoid creating dependency?

Because that is exactly the opposite of what I want to achieve.

I want someone to become stronger, brighter and more independent.

Not that someone thinks about it every time they make a choice:

I have to call Leila first.

Many clients find that one session can already provide a lot of clarity.

If that's enough, I find that wonderful.

A follow-up session is when someone needs it themselves, not because I think someone should keep coming back.

When has your work been successful for you?

When someone feels more relaxed.

More overview.

More clarity.

More confidence.

When something that seemed very complicated before has suddenly become more understandable.

And especially when someone can feel it again afterwards:

I can handle it myself.

What does your role as a confidant mean?

That someone can also come to me when there is not one clear paranormal question.

Sometimes someone especially needs a place where something can finally be expressed.

• Where one can talk freely.
• Without judgment.
• Without everything needing to be resolved immediately.
• And with the assurance that what is discussed remains confidential.

My extensive life experience plays an important role in this.

What does your role as a sparring partner mean?

Sometimes someone knows a lot deep down inside, but everything is still confused.

Then it can be very pleasant to examine thoughts aloud.

• A choice of different perspectives to consider.
• To discuss a plan.
• Testing an idea.
• Or just to talk for a while with someone who has no personal interest in the outcome.

As a sparring partner, I ask targeted questions, reflect on what I notice, and help to quickly get a clear understanding of what is really important.

I am not making the decision.

You say that you get to the core quickly. What do you mean by that?

That I usually don’t need to spend a long time to feel or see what a question really is about.

Sometimes someone comes up with a whole story, while underneath that story there is actually one central question, need, fear, or pattern.

I love clarity.

Not going on pointless rounds.

But getting to the core quickly doesn't mean for me that I'm chasing someone.

There should actually be peace and quiet.

It is about clarity without hardness.

What is your personal vision of life?

For me, creation comes from the Source.

I experience the Source as the origin of creation and as inextricably linked with unconditional love and light.

That is my personal spiritual belief.

I don't need someone else to believe exactly the same thing.

Everyone is free to follow their own path in that regard.

What does the soul mean to you?

When I speak of the soul or the Higher Self, I mean the same thing.

For me, that is the deepest core of who someone is.

A layer that goes beyond just personality, behavior, thoughts, or circumstances.

Is thinking for you the same as ego?

No.

Thoughts can be very neutral.

For me, thinking is not automatically ego.

I recognize the ego more in statements like:

• I want to.
• I have to.
• I am.
• I think so.

I experience a human being as a whole of different layers: body, mind, soul or Higher Self, thoughts, ego, consciousness and subconsciousness.

How important is spirituality to you?

It is a natural part of my life and my work.

But I never want to impose spirituality on anyone.

I can tell you what I experience and how I look at something.

The other person can then decide for themselves what is appropriate.

I have no need to convince anyone.

What do you absolutely not want to project?

• That I am dreamy.
• That I stand above people.
• That I possess absolute truths.
• That someone needs to continue to need me.
• That I decide how someone should live their life.
• That I can solve everything.
• Or that I give guarantees about things that I cannot guarantee.

What exactly do you want to project?

• Humanity.
• Heat.
• Respect.
• Honesty.
• Clarity.
• Depth.
• Sincerity.
• Experience.
• Safety.
• Equality.
• Confidentiality.
• And that someone came to me with very different aspects of life.

What does “Nothing human is strange to me” really mean to you?

That people don't have to wonder:

Can I tell you this?

In my life and work I have experienced and heard so many different human situations, emotions and stories that I am not easily frightened by what someone shares with me.

That doesn't mean that everything has to be the same or that everything has to be approved.

It means that I first want to continue seeing the human being.

What do you hope someone experiences when they enter your home?

Rest.

That someone feels that there is time and attention.

That there is no judgment ready.

That someone should just be able to be themselves for a moment.

My practice space is deliberately quiet, fresh and free of distractions.

I like it when someone can sit down, relax, and feel:

Here we can calmly look at what concerns me.

Where do you work?

My practice is located in Capelle aan den IJssel, right next to Rotterdam.

I work personally from my quiet home office, but also by phone and online.

Because of this, I work not only locally, but also with clients located further away and internationally.

Sessions are also available in English.

What would you like someone to know about you before they share a vulnerable question with you?

That I never find the question more important than the person who asks it.

That someone doesn't have to be perfect with me.

That I work in confidence.

That I am honest.

That I don't judge.

And that I always try to treat everyone who plays a role in a situation with respect.

How would you like clients to remember you later?

As someone they could be themselves with.

Someone who wasn't shocked by their story.

Which did not convict them.

That was honest.

He quickly understood what was really going on.

He was able to combine that warmth and clarity.

And that helped them to finally go on their own way with more confidence.

The core of Leila Amaryllis

I am Leila Amaryllis the Vries: a born clairvoyant and medium, a mental coach, a confidant and sparring partner with over 37 years of experience.

But in the end, none of those titles are the most important to me.

The most important thing is the person in front of me.

I want someone to feel safe, to be themselves and to be able to look at their question without judgment.

I work based on respect, honesty, clarity and equality. I like to get to the heart of things quickly, but always with an eye for the human being and the pace that fits that.

My goal is not that someone will continue to need me.

My best result is when someone feels after our time together:

• I understand better what is happening.
• I feel again what is important to me.
• I have confidence in my own choices.
• And I can get on with my life.